Sex

"What if sex wasn't part of a relationship with a woman? Any woman. What if meeting a girl doesn't imply looking for a partner?" - Thoughts Kept

I always get nervous when meeting women. It's as if... pretty girls are always expecting men to have sexual thoughts about them, or romantic intentions. I can't stop thinking about that when I meet girls and it makes me extra uncomfortable.

I've come to a point where I've decided I do not want a girlfriend anymore. Too much trouble. I don't even want sex anymore. Any girl that enters into my life I must now see as a potential friend, and that's about it. If anything else is going to happen, it will happen anyway.

The quote originally came from a different train of thought:

As men we were taught that intimacy with women is something that you have to earn. We’ve bastardized this idea to the point that the average man thinks that they are entitled to sex in exchange for being a nice guy; this is a common joke, even. Videogames and anime have reinforced this idea. Dating simulators are the worst offender: Saying nice things, giving gifts and spending time together raises your “relationship points” and it’s totally expected that you’ll get to a sex scene if you have enough points. The worst part is that this isn’t that far from the truth, those are perfectly normal things to do if you’re expecting to get closer to a girl. I have lived by this idea, but we all get lost at some point along the way. We rush things, or wait too long, or in general don’t know what we’re doing. The real deal is much more complicated than that. Yes, be nice to the person you’re trying to get closer to, but also try to understand them, feel this “sonder” about them: understand their goals, expectations and motivations, even if they’re just your friends now. And by all means, don’t take too long to make it clear what you expect from them.